by Rachel Wells
Today’s day to day life is filled with busy schedules and endless stimulation, and it’s turned independent play into something that’s increasingly more and more overlooked. Parents often feel the need to entertain their children from sun up to sun down, and when they need a break, technology swoops in to provide the entertainment. But playing alone is a powerful tool in a child’s development, and boredom plays a key role in unlocking creativity and independence.
Independent play offers kids opportunities to grow in a way that organized, or group activities just simply can’t provide.
Benefits of Independent Play
Teaches Self-Entertainment and Independence
Kids who play by themselves learn to have fun on their own and don’t rely on others to provide their happiness.
Builds Self-Confidence
Independent play encourages kids to solve problems on their own, boosting their confidence. With no one to bounce ideas off of they learn that they are capable – building their strength and confidence from within.
Fosters Creativity, Curiosity, and Self Expression
Without the influence of peers, a child’s imagination can run wild – creating new worlds, scenarios, and solutions to problems that are all their own.
Independent play also provides kids the freedom to express themselves and their emotions without any judgement from others. This helps children process their feelings and work through real-life situations with any fear of doing it “wrong”.
Encourages Calmness and Focus
Unlike physical activities or activities with peers, solo play provides a sense of calmness – improving a child’s mood and giving them a peaceful time to explore and interact with their world through play.
Promotes Problem Solving and Decision-Making Skills
It’s easy to rely on others to help solve problems, but with enough independent play time, kids begin to realize that they can look inward to solve problems on their own.
How to Encourage Your Child to Play Independently
Set Out Activities
Leave out a puzzle or craft supplies on the table, pour out the Lego bin on a blanket, set up the start of a small town or village on the carpet, or build a racetrack using magnetic blocks. Getting started is half the battle, so there’s nothing wrong with providing some inspiration as a starting spot.
Stay in the Room
A lot of kids don’t want to feel separated, so telling them to “go play” may not go over well. If possible, have your child play independently but still nearby you.
Don’t Leave Out Too Many Options
Too many toys lead to too much stimulation, and an overwhelming feeling of not knowing where to begin. Try a toy rotation and only put out a few things at a time or make special independent play bins that you can take out only during solo playtimes.
Set an Example
Lead by example and let your child see you doing technology free independent activities that are fun (not chores!) during the day. Out of all the ways you can encourage your child to play independently this may just be the most important one.
Be Consistent
If your child really has a hard time with independent play at the beginning, that’s okay. Start with just 30 minutes a day and gradually add more time. Be sure to make solo play a part of each day if possible.
